Queer Grief GatheringS
A dedicated space for 2SLGBTQIA+
Here, your grief is seen, honored, and met with warmth. Whether you’re moving through a recent loss, old wounds, or mounting sorrows of a fractured world, this gathering offers a place to rest, reflect, and feel supported in community.
It felt wonderful to finally give myself the space to experience my grief in ways I hadn’t previously allowed.
from the heart of a Grievery guest
Our Journey Together
Come as you are—to witness and be witnessed. Share if you wish or simply be present. This is a space to reconnect with your own heart and the beautiful humanity of others walking similar paths.
There is no agenda here to fix or change you—only gentle companionship, attentive listening, and compassionate presence.
The Flow of a Session
We begin with a brief welcome and gentle grounding, then move into sharing, reflective writing, and quiet reflection. We close the gathering with a poem or gentle ritual to honor the space we’ve created.
Feel free to bring a candle, journal, blanket, or anything that helps you settle into this practice space.
Key Details
- Advance registration and payment are required for each gathering.
- Sessions are offered on a sliding scale—we trust you’ll choose what feels right.
- Payments accepted via PayPal or Venmo.
- Cameras are optional; arrive however you feel most comfortable.
- Sharing is always optional—you may speak as much or as little as feels right.
- Please review our community guidelines before attending.
See more commonly asked questions below.
Meet Your Guide: Rebecca
Rebecca Churt is a practicing end-of-life doula and the founder of The Grievery. Her work honors grief as a natural, universal experience—one that connects us deeply to each other, the earth, and all living beings. She approaches grief not as something to be fixed or solved, but as a presence to be tended with care, attention, and compassion.
Rebecca’s practice acknowledges the many ways grief shows up and challenges colonial narratives around productivity, resilience, and healing. She centers interdependence and the power of witnessing, creating spaces where grief is recognized not as a personal failure, but as a profound and necessary process for connection, reflection, and renewal. Read more.
Queerness and grief are deeply intertwined in my life, each informing and enriching the other.
Rebecca Churt, Grievery Grief Guide
Frequently Asked Questions
Please contact us if you cannot find an answer to your question.
Grief is a natural, multifaceted response to loss that touches our emotional, physical, and spiritual lives. Not all grief includes loss. It extends beyond death to include transitions or changes in relationships, identity, health, and our sense of the world. We recognize grief as an ongoing process—one that calls for tending, compassion, and connection, rather than quick fixes or tidy resolutions.
Grief is not something to be rushed or “solved.” We honor a pace that respects the body, the heart, and the stories that need to be witnessed with patience and presence. While support and compassionate witnessing can help ease the weight of grief, it is not a destination or endpoint. Healing emerges through full engagement with sorrow, through feeling, reflecting, and connecting with others. It is a lifelong practice, a cycle we return to again and again, and a way to cultivate deeper presence, understanding, and care for ourselves and those around us.
Grievery gatherings are intimate online spaces where you’re welcomed exactly as you are. Each session is gently facilitated by a Grief Guide who offers grounding practices, somatic check-ins, and compassionate presence. You’re never required to share; you can speak, listen quietly, or simply be held by the collective space. Rather than trying to fix or move past grief, gatherings create a soft, supportive environment where your experience is honored, witnessed, and met with care.
No. Our sessions are not a replacement for any other forms of therapy or support you have in place. In fact, we encourage you to think about The Grievery as a valuable supplement or extension of your overall support network. Please note, we do not provide medical or psychotherapeutic advice or treatment. Participation in our gatherings does not replace the care provided by a qualified healthcare professional.
The Grievery is a secular community. Although many religions support those going through grief, we intentionally want to hold space for people to grieve outside formal devotional settings.
We use Zoom. A link will be sent to your email immediately upon registration. Our gathering spaces are opened about 5 mins before the start of the scheduled session.
Yes, but pre-registration is required - meaning you'll want to reserve your spot and pay for your upcoming session ahead of time. You can register or sign up for any gathering up to 30 mins before the session start time.
In an attempt to create a shared online experience where people can feel seen and as part of something larger, we encourage all participants to please keep their video on. Of course, that is always optional.
We understand that schedules and circumstances change. Please try to cancel at least 24 hours in advance of your registered session. Any cancellations within a 24 hour window will mean forfeiting your paid sign-up fee (non-refundable). Please note, we do not record any sessions for playback.
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