Where Sorrow Meets Solace

Whether you are mourning the life you hoped to live; feeling anguish for relationships that fell apart, friendships that vanished, or loved ones who died; reeling from the experience of betrayal and abandonment; or burdened with sorrow for our troubled planet – you’ve come to the right place.

At The Grievery, we believe that expressing our grief is vital and necessary to helping humanity heal, and we’re here to see you through it. Because we also believe that healing happens in community.

Where to start

Our Gatherings

Our gatherings are a supportive space for those navigating any type of grief. Our trusted grief guides will lead you through sharing stories of love and loss. Together we foster a community where there's no pressure, just space to be. Read more.

Our Schedule

Choose from any date and time on the schedule that works for you and reserve your spot. You can drop in whenever, from wherever.

Our Offerings

If you’re ready to continue your journey in tending to your grief, we have more to offer. Head over to 'Offerings' in the main menu to explore what else awaits.

The Grievery Team

Rebecca (she / her)

Matthew (they / them)

Rebecca's life calling is to build healing spaces — a well of deep community care — as an offer to feel seen and received. She's a certified yoga teacher, grief guide and death doula. Her work has included mindfulness, wellness and resilience practices to restore a sense of vitality and self-empowerment.

Matthew (they / them)

Matthew helps groups practice being the change we want to see. They use compassion, and co-creation tools to cultivate the intersections of justice movements, artistic expression, and collective liberation.

Jonathan (he / him)

Matthew (they / them)

Jonathan (he / him)

Jonathan is a storyteller, yoga teacher, meditation guide, and performer who believes that the combination of expression, connection, and self-reflection are potent catalysts for human flourishing.

Our Guidelines FOR being in community

1. We gather to hold space and witness grief.

The Grievery invites us to step into community and allow each other to feel seen, heard, witnessed, and wholeheartedly welcomed.

2. We listen with compassion and curiosity.

When it’s not your turn for sharing, please listen generously and attentively.

3. We speak from a place of personal experience.

When we share, we work to reveal our own experience, rather than commenting on someone else’s experience or what they should be doing or feeling.

4. We refrain from advice-giving, interrupting and opinion sharing unless explicitly asked for.

We’re here to fully bear witness to what’s unfolding, in that, we honor each other’s unique ways of healing and don’t presume to advise, fix, or save one another.

5. We hold what is shared with confidentiality, non-judgment and respect.

We'll regard what's shared here as sacred and confidential, always.

6. We honor the need for quiet reflection or pause.

We trust that each of us has the guidance we need within us, and there’s no pressure to speak if you don’t feel ready.

OUR methodologies & Influences

Our work is informed by consilient thinking — the linking together of principles from different disciplines. A touch of each of these modalities is woven throughout our offerings.

Gates of Grief: Encourages us to examine how grief shows up, from the personal to the planetary.
Somatic Experiencing: Explores the connection between mind and body in healing grief.
Zen Buddhist Principles: While we are completely secular, Zen Buddhism does influence what we do by way of practicing not knowing, bearing witness and compassionate action.
Trauma-Informed Care: Prioritizes safety, trust, and empowerment in supporting individuals and groups.
Compassionate Inquiry: Fosters authentic connection and self-exploration.

ACKNOWLEDGING Other WISDOM TRADITIONS & THE INTERSECTIONALITY OF GRIEF

Modern grief-tending has been formed through the contributions and innovations of generations of people, cultures and traditions — some that are more visible than others. All of them are reflected in the work that we do today, and we acknowledge that much of these practices have been developed in the context of colonization as well as systemic oppression and inequity.

At The Grievery, our commitment is to continue to uncover and hold these contradictions and complexities with honesty and discernment. We offer our practices for the sake of deep personal, communal, and systemic transformation and healing. We believe that holding a communal space for grief is tantamount to collective consciousness-raising and liberation. We also believe that by building a relationship with grief, we increase our capacity to build intersectional solidarity while facing injustices and collapse of all kinds.

We see this work as our life’s work — a continuous practice: generative, alive and evolving.

Where Sorrow Meets Solace

Where to start

Our Gatherings

Our Schedule

Our Offerings

The Grievery Team

Rebecca (she / her)

Matthew (they / them)

Matthew (they / them)

Matthew (they / them)

Matthew (they / them)

Matthew (they / them)

Jonathan (he / him)

Matthew (they / them)

Jonathan (he / him)

We started The Grievery because ...

Our Guidelines FOR being in community

1. We gather to hold space and witness grief.

2. We listen with compassion and curiosity.

3. We speak from a place of personal experience.

4. We refrain from advice-giving, interrupting and opinion sharing unless explicitly asked for.

5. We hold what is shared with confidentiality, non-judgment and respect.

6. We honor the need for quiet reflection or pause.

OUR methodologies & Influences

ACKNOWLEDGING Other WISDOM TRADITIONS & THE INTERSECTIONALITY OF GRIEF

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