Where Sorrow Meets Solace
The Grievery is a community of practice where grief is not treated as a problem to solve but as a sacred teacher. We gather to remember that grief is not meant to be carried alone—it is meant to be tended together.
Grief touches every life, yet our culture often isolates us in it. The Grievery offers another way: a place to pause, to be witnessed, and to discover how grief can open us into deeper compassion, connection, and aliveness.
Begin Here
Start with a Gathering
Our weekly groups are a place to gather. Bring whatever grief you carry. Guided by a trusted Grief Guide, we move through story, embodied practice, and ritual. Together we weave a community where nothing needs to be fixed and everything can be felt. Read more.
Choose Your Moment
Choose from any date and time on the calendar that works for you and reserve your spot. You can drop in whenever, from wherever.
Walk Further Together
Beyond weekly groups, The Grievery offers workshops, 1:1 sessions, and trainings. These are pathways to deepen presence, build capacity, and carry the work of tending grief into your life and community.
The Grievery Team
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca's life calling is to build healing spaces—a well of deep community care. Her work is rooted in honoring grief as a shared human experience—one that connects us deeply to each other, the earth, and all living beings.
Jovan (she/they)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Jovan is a Death Midwife, Grief Doula, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Advocate. Her calling invites the use of creativity, space-holding, and energy work to create opportunities for people to navigate grief and the fear of dying.
Luna (they/them)
Rebecca (she/her)
Luna (they/them)
Luna believes that grief is a necessary practice in this current world and is an act of resistance to business as usual. Their work centers on the belief that the more we can feel our grief, the more we are able to access our joy.
We started The Grievery because ...
we believe in the power of community to hold us through life’s most uncertain moments. When the weight of the world feels too much to bear, we need spaces where we can come together to share our grief and tend to our broken hearts. In these moments of tenderness, we can reclaim our personal and collective strength by remembering the deep, inherent interconnectedness that binds us all.
As a self-funded, queer-owned collective, we offer a brave and compassionate space where anyone, anywhere, can open their heart and feel a sense of belonging. Here, we honor the fullness of humanity—seeing and hearing each other in all our complexity, vulnerability, and resilience. Our work is rooted in the belief that every individual deserves to be seen in their wholeness, without judgment or limitation. We are committed to creating a space that is not only inclusive and affirming but also deeply grounded in community care, where we can hold grief and joy together.
OUR methodologies & Influences
The Grievery is a living practice space. We are not a therapy program. We are not a religious service. Here, grief is honored as communal, embodied, and transformative. Our guides draw on a variety of frameworks to companion you through loss, transition, and remembering. A touch of each of these modalities is woven throughout our offerings.
- Gates of Grief: Encourages us to examine how grief shows up, from the personal to the planetary.
- Somatic Experiencing: Through an embodied practice, grief—personal or collective—becomes something we can witness, process, and transform with awareness, compassion, and grounded action.
- Zen Buddhist Principles: While we are completely secular, Zen Buddhism does influence what we do by way of practicing not knowing, bearing witness and compassionate action.
- Trauma-Informed Care: Prioritizes safety, trust, and empowerment in supporting individuals and groups.
- Hospicing Modernity: Helps us consciously navigate the collapse of modern systems, unlearn harmful patterns, and tend to these endings relationally.
Our Guiding Values
Liberatory Grief
We honor grief.
Sacred. Cyclical. Transformative.
We resist pathologizing. We resist rushing.
We move with its deep, slow unfolding.
Relational Care
We meet as kin.
We learn from one another.
We support one another.
Healing is collective; wisdom flows through community.
Sacred Belonging
We grieve through ritual and reverence.
We listen to the wisdom of ancestors.
All loss is welcome here.
Embodiment Practice
We honor grief as it moves through the body.
Tending its wisdom is a shared, sacred practice.
Presence. Care. Tending.
Our Guidelines FOR being in community
1. We gather to hold space for grief—to witness and be witnessed.
2. We listen with compassion and curiosity.
3. We speak from a place of personal experience.
4. We refrain from advice-giving, interrupting and opinion sharing unless explicitly asked for.
5. We hold what is shared with confidentiality, non-judgment and respect.
6. We honor the need for quiet reflection or pause.
Grief-Tending Across Lineages and Liberation
Modern grief-tending is rooted in the contributions and wisdom of countless generations, cultures, and traditions—some more visible than others. These threads are woven into the work we do today, often shaped by the practices connected to our own social locations. When our rituals are informed or inspired by specific traditions, we name them, offering gratitude and reciprocity. We also acknowledge that many of these practices have emerged within contexts of colonization, systemic oppression, and inequity, leaving complex legacies that call for honesty and discernment.
At The Grievery, we are committed to uncovering and holding these nuances and contradictions with care and integrity. Our practices are offered as pathways to deep personal, communal, and systemic transformation. We believe that creating spaces for grief together is not only an act of healing but also a profound act of collective consciousness-raising and liberation.
By building a relationship with grief, we expand our capacity to foster intersectional solidarity—grounded in an understanding of how interlocking systems of oppression and exploitation shape our lives and our losses—in the face of injustice, genocide, systemic collapse, and ecological crisis. This work asks us to confront what has been broken, to imagine what might be possible, and to remain present to the sacred in all that we encounter.
We see this as deep-time work—alive, generative, and ever-evolving across lifetimes.
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