Where Sorrow Meets Solace
The Grievery is a community of practice where grief is not treated as a problem to solve but as a sacred teacher. We help you navigate grief with tenderness and support. Whether you’re anticipating a death, grieving someone who has died, or carrying old, unspoken sorrow, we offer grounded spaces to help you find your footing.
Grief touches every life, yet our culture often leaves us alone in it. The Grievery offers another way: a place to pause, to be witnessed, and to explore how grief can open us into deeper compassion, connection, and aliveness.
A Team of Guides + Practitioners
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca's life calling is to build healing spaces—a well of deep community care. Her work is rooted in honoring grief as a shared human experience—one that connects us deeply to each other, the earth, and all living beings.
Jovan (she/they)
Rebecca (she/her)
Rebecca (she/her)
Jovan is a Death Midwife, Grief Doula, Pregnancy and Infant Loss Advocate. Her calling invites the use of creativity, space-holding, and energy work to create opportunities for people to navigate grief and the fear of dying.
Luna (they/them)
Rebecca (she/her)
Luna (they/them)
Luna believes that grief is a necessary practice in this current world and is an act of resistance to business as usual. Their work centers on the belief that the more we can feel our grief, the more we are able to access our joy.
We started The Grievery because ...
we believe in the power of community to hold us through life’s most uncertain moments. When the weight of the world feels too much to bear, we need spaces where we can come together to share our grief and tend to our broken hearts. In these moments of tenderness, we can reclaim our personal and collective strength by remembering the deep, inherent interconnectedness that binds us all.
A queer-owned, independent small business, built slowly with love, and shaped by passion and lived experience. We gather to honor the fullness of humanity—seeing and hearing each other in all our complexity and vulnerability, while also holding grief and joy side by side. Our work is rooted in the belief that every person deserves to be seen in their wholeness, without judgment or shaming. And, we are committed to cultivating a liberatory grief space—one that feels welcoming and grounded in community care, affirming grief in all its forms and expressions.
OUR methodologies & Influences
The Grievery is a living practice space—not therapy, not religion. Here, grief is met as something communal, embodied, and transformative. Our guides draw on a constellation of frameworks to companion you through loss, transition, and remembering, each offering gently threaded with the practices that inform us.
- Gates of Grief: Encourages us to examine how grief shows up, from the personal to the planetary.
- Somatic Experiencing: Through an embodied practice, grief—personal or collective—becomes something we can witness, process, and transform with awareness, compassion, and grounded action.
- Zen Buddhist Principles: While we are completely secular, Zen Buddhism does influence what we do by way of practicing not knowing, bearing witness and compassionate action.
- Trauma-Informed Care: Prioritizes safety, trust, and empowerment in supporting individuals and groups.
- Hospicing Modernity: Helps us consciously navigate the collapse of modern systems, unlearn harmful patterns, and tend to these endings relationally.
Our Guiding Values
Liberatory Grief
We honor grief.
Sacred. Cyclical. Transformative.
We resist pathologizing. We resist rushing.
We move with its deep, slow unfolding.
Relational Care
We meet as kin.
We learn from one another.
We support one another.
Healing is collective; wisdom flows through community.
Sacred Belonging
We grieve through ritual and reverence.
We listen to the wisdom of ancestors.
All loss is welcome here.
Embodiment Practice
We honor grief as it moves through the body.
Tending its wisdom is a shared, sacred practice.
Presence. Care. Tending.
Our Guidelines FOR being in community
1. We gather to hold space for grief—to witness and be witnessed.
2. We listen with compassion and curiosity.
3. We speak from a place of personal experience.
4. We refrain from advice-giving, interrupting and opinion sharing unless explicitly asked for.
5. We hold what is shared with confidentiality, non-judgment and respect.
6. We honor the need for quiet reflection or pause.
Grief-Tending Across Lineages & Liberation
Modern grief-tending is rooted in the wisdom and contributions of countless generations, cultures, and traditions—some more visible than others. These threads live within the work we do today, shaped in part by the practices connected to our own social locations. When our rituals are informed or inspired by specific traditions, we name them with gratitude and reciprocity. We also acknowledge that many of these practices emerged within histories of colonization, systemic oppression, and inequity—legacies that call for honesty, discernment, and care.
At The Grievery, we are committed to tending these nuances and contradictions with integrity. We offer our practices as pathways toward personal, communal, and systemic transformation. We believe that gathering to make space for grief is not only an act of healing, but also an act of collective consciousness-raising and liberation.
By building a relationship with grief, we expand our capacity for intersectional solidarity—recognizing how interlocking systems of oppression and exploitation shape our lives and our losses, particularly in times of injustice, genocide, systemic collapse, and ecological crisis. This work asks us to face what has been broken, imagine what might yet be possible, and remain present to the sacred in all we encounter.
We see this as deep-time work—alive, generative, and ever-evolving across lifetimes.
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Gates of Grief Workshop
Come together in our 8-week Gates of Grief workshop, beginning February 1, 2026 — a guided space where grief can be felt, shared, and gently transformed.